My husband and I were talking about the need to “slow down.” Couples are all so busy and stressed that they miss many opportunities to connect and enjoy each other. We all miss so many of the joys of life.
So today, in the interest of slowing down, I pulled out a chair and sat and visited with my husband while he cleared some grass out from around the raspberry plants. It was really very lovely. It was a sunny day with a cool breeze. We talked about the garden, about some work responsibilities, and just general chatter. I helped with clean up and then we went back to work (we work from home). It’s amazing how much more relaxed I felt and how well we connected with each other the rest of the day.
I encourage y’all to slow down. The laundry and dust bunnies will still be there, but the moments to share with your husband, family and friends can be lost to the passage of time. Enjoy them now.
Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Carl Sandburg
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Be generous! Lori <><
Hi Lori,
I think you really hit the nail on the head. I agree that most couples these days don’t spend that much time together. I think a lot of people may be put off from the idea because they think that quality time has to be a “planned activity.” But that misses the point of “quality”; it should be a moment where, as you say, you can slow down and savor all the joys of life together. I work for an online marriage counseling program (http://www.poweroftwomarriage.com) that often advises setting aside time in simple, slow ways, like just being together, while your husband gardens, enjoying each other’s company and the sunshine. Thanks for the advice!
~Naomi
Oh Lori, I am glad you had that time with Paul!! I do this often with my husband! He is a shadetree mechanic and most days when he is puttering on a project I pull up a chair, bring out 2 glasses of ice tea or ice water, grab a magazine or two that I haven’t had time to read yet, and just enjoy being in his presence.
We had a slow down moment last week. We were at his parents house, and they have a trampoline in the back yard. We laid down on the trampoline and just cuddled for awhile. It was lovely. Somehow those slow moments become magical.