I’m “running” in the CMBA half marathon (blogging daily from Oct 1st to 13th) by writing “13 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage.”
13 Things I’ve Learned About Marriage

#12 – Choose to be happy.
I have often wondered how my husband survived the first decade (or two?) of our marriage. I was such a glum bunny. I was no fun at all to live with, I’m sure.
I have learned that, for the most part, happiness (or lack there of) is a choice. I know it would be really nice if happiness was about how others treat us or about getting that new [whatever] we want. Sorry. (Well, actually not sorry. If our happiness rested on circumstance or what others do (or don’t do), happiness would be out of our reach much of the time.)
I’m not saying don’t address problems. I’m saying that in any given situation there is much to be happy about, be grateful for and generally celebrate. Choose to be happy and don’t be a glum bunny. Your husband will thank you for it.
Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. Abraham Lincoln
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This is hard when you try your best to be happy and it is continually stolen from you. Instead, seek the joy of the Lord.
I think that’s my point, ladybug. Yes, people can do things that are disappointing and circumstances can be hurtful, but we can choose how to respond. The joy of the Lord is our strength and happiness is an attitude we can choose.
I’m not saying that other attitudes or feelings are wrong, it’s just that we don’t always want to park on them.
Thanks for this reminder. I agree that much of happiness is a choice. And in situations in which we can’t find happiness, we can still find joy in all that God has done for us.