The Generous Wife
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Compared to What?
One of my grandsons is five. He has a cousin that lives on the property that is six. They are getting to be best buddies.
I was looking at them the other day noticing their differences. Now, I have to be careful about that. The older boy was a preemie and had some early developmental issues. If I were to compare him to my grandson I might see him as “behind.” However if I compare him to where he was a year ago, I would be amazed by his growth. His speech is clearing up and his vocabulary is growing. He’s a bright kid that is developing well.
The same kind of comparison can be a problem in marriages. Marriages start off in different places, face different challenges, and generally have their own time table. Comparing your marriage to another marriage is a poor choice. They’re really not the same.
Instead, compare your marriage today with where you were last year. You’ll be able to see growth and work to make changes that are appropriate for your marriage and the season you are in.
Comparison is the best way to judge our progress but not with others, compare your yesterday with your today. Author Unknown
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A lady I know has the same business as I do. She makes more money and works more hours for wealthier clientele. Sometimes I get caught in the mud wondering why I can’t be as “successful” as she is. But, I have to remember that she has half the number of children that I do, and her parents live with her, so she can work worry-free at any hours that suits her or her clients. She also is a bundle of energy who doesn’t have an autoimmune disorder like I do.
The problem really gets to me, though, when other people start poking their noses in. Why can’t your son read, yet? Your sister keeps her house so clean, maybe you should ask her for advice? (My sister has fewer kids, more storage space, is 100% a SAHM, and doesn’t have a borderline hoarder husband).
I’m delighted you can back away from comparisons. Sorry you have to deal with those who don’t.
Compare my life to what it was,
and I’ll be in a mess;
goin’ downhill, can’t push pause
in this race to death.
I could still speak last year,
and do more things than now;
thoughts on that might bring a tear,
and don’t matter anyhow,
for this day is what I’ve got,
each moment’s opportunity
to save a little or a lot
of grace in God’s eternity,
the treasure safe within His hands
for me, when I depart these lands.
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What a great analogy! My preemie son was behind the averages, but he grew at a good rate. And now that he’s in his 20s… ;)