Staying home more has given most of us more togetherness. That comes with a number of blessings but it can also create a few marital challenges.

A recent poster asked:

… We have 4 teenagers and … everyone is home much more often. My husband and I don’t have a lot of privacy. Even our bedroom is next to our kids’ rooms. … I have found it difficult to have sex because of our close quarters with so many teenagers … Now, I feel very self-conscious because I don’t want to get caught. Any ideas for us?

Some thoughts, in no particular order.

Move to another bedroom.
Is it possible to change rooms? Is there one bedroom in the house that is a bit more secluded? Even if it is smaller, it would be worth the additional privacy. If you have the time and money, go all out and turn the garage into a couple’s suite.

Use cover noise.
Years ago my husband and I bought an air filter for our room. With age, it got a little noisy. At one point we thought of replacing it, but we loved the low-level cover noise. Is there something you could run regularly in your room like an air filter, play low music (most of the time so you are not signaling it’s time for sex), or a white noise machine (used to help folks sleep better)? Can you help your kids with cover noise in their rooms? Buy your kids very cool headphones or allow them to play music in their rooms (at a reasonable level).

Fix bedroom noises.
If your bed squeaks, get a new frame or mattress. If the floorboards creak, move the bed to another spot or run a few screws into the floor from underneath. The next time you have sex, listen for any bedroom sounds. Do what you can to reduce them.

Get your kids out and about.
Are there regular times when the kids are not in their bedrooms (especially the one next to your bedroom)? You might even have the kids plan a weekly teenager evening just for them. Grown-ups are banned (to the bedroom, of course). Are there outdoor activities or chore time? Can you make the family room a magnet for teen activity? If you homeschool, create a classroom area (so they are not working in their bedrooms). Basically, you want to attract them to other areas of the house and get them out of their bedrooms.

Let your kids see your bedroom is multipurpose.
Use your bedroom for different activities. If the kids see you and your husband use the bedroom for playing cards, working on the computer, just hanging out, etc., then having both of you disappear into the bedroom won’t automatically say “we’re having sex.” Have the door open sometimes and closed at other times. That is your bedroom and private space. Just like they go into their bedrooms, you and hubby go into yours with varying levels of privacy.

Your teenagers know that you and your sweetie have sex (their existence proves that). :) The idea is to remove the noise factor so you retain your privacy.

If you want privacy, be a private person. Author Unknown

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