(Originally posted on March 29, 2018.)

I have a personal boundary. When someone says in conversation “you think” or “you feel” I nicely say, “It’s my job to share my thoughts or feelings. I’m the only one who truly knows what’s going on inside of me.” They don’t know what I think or feel unless they ask and I tell them. Anything else is assumption, guessing, or a flight of imagination.

Then the other day I realized I was about to talk to someone based on some assumptions I had made. I was guilty of walking over someone else’s right to share what they think and feel. At least I hadn’t spoken up yet. I took the time to pause, repent, and then invite that person into conversation. 

This is especially easy when it comes to husbands. We live with them and know them fairly well. It’s a kind of shorthand to talk based on what we know of them, but even so, it’s still dangerous territory to assume or imagine.

Much better to ask and let our husbands share what’s going on. It’s far kinder and certainly more respectful.

Before you “assume,” try this crazy method called “asking.” Author Unknown

• Prayer Prompt: Ask God to remind you to let your husband speak for himself.
• The XY Code: Embrace the Crazy… or Whatever Allow for his “unique” differences.
• (in)courage: Joy in Who God Made You to Be You’re beautiful. :)

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